Send a Message on Tinder (2024)

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Messaging someone on Tinder isn't as easy as other social dating apps

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What to Know

  • Swipe right or tap the heart on a user's profile to show interest. If that person expresses interest, you are matched and can exchange messages.
  • On the app: Tap the speech bubble icon. Select a matched user to open a chat window. Enter your message and select Send.
  • On the website: Select a match from the left side of the screen. In the field that says Type a message, enter a message and Send.

This article explains how to match with individuals on Tinder and then message them on the app or website. It includes information on the Hot Takes feature.

How Messaging Works on Tinder

Tinder can be a convenient tool for meeting new people. Still, its approach to sending a message to another user is different from how chat is designed on other dating apps. Other social media and dating apps let you immediately send a direct message to another user. In contrast, Tinder requires both parties to express an interest in each other before it opens the lines of communication.

To communicate with another user, you need to swipe right on their profile, and they need to swipe right on your profile. After you and the other user have swiped right on each other, each of you receives a notification within the app about a new match, and you are added to each other's chat tab.

In addition to swiping right, you can tap the heart icon on a user's Tinder profile to express interest. Both actions perform the same function.

Sometimes you might need to wait for the other user to view your profile and like it after you liked them. If they already liked you, you are immediately notified of the match as soon as you swipe right.

Conversely, if the other user never sees your profile or chooses to swipe left on it because they're uninterested, you won't match and can never message each other on Tinder.

Learn five ways to optimize your Tinder profile.

How to Message Someone on the Tinder App

After you're matched with someone on Tinder, you can message each other via the chat tab within the mobile app. These instructions are the same for both the iOS and Android versions.

  1. After you're matched with someone on Tinder, tap the icon that looks like a speech bubble in the upper-right corner of the app.

    If you immediately match with another user after swiping right on their profile, you may be presented with a fullscreen message prompting you to message them. If you see one of these notifications, tap it to compose a chat message.

  2. You are shown a screen with your matches listed horizontally across the top with a vertical list of received messages underneath. Tap the image of the user you want to message.

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  3. A chat window opens. Tap the text field along the bottom of the screen and type a message.

    Alternatively, tap the GIF icon to send an animated gif or the Bitmoji Sticker icon to send a sticker.

  4. Select Send.

  5. Your message is sent to the other person. You can chat as you would on other messaging apps like WhatsApp, Vero, and Facebook Messenger.

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How to Send a Message on the Tinder Website

You can also send messages to other Tinder users on the official Tinder website. Here's how.

Like with the Tinder apps, you can only send a message to someone else on the Tinder website if you are matched with one another.

  1. On the left side of the screen, you should see a list of everyone you're matched with on Tinder. Select the profile of the person you want to chat with.

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  2. Along the bottom of the screen, select the text field that says Type a message.

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  3. Type your message and select Send.

    Tinder messages sync between the web version and apps that use the same account information. That means you can start a chat on your computer and continue it on the Tinder app on your smartphone or vice versa.

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  4. Your Tinder chat is now active.

Hot Takes Chat

You can also chat with other users through the Hot Takes feature, which can be found in the Explore tab. Every evening at 6PM-12AM local time, users have the option the answer a random question from Tinder. Answers appear in a chat window that everyone can see for 30 seconds. If someone responds, you can view their profile and match with them. That way, you'll get a little interaction before matching, and you'll have something to talk about.

FAQ

  • How do I find someone on Tinder?

    To find someone on Tinder, open your profile page and select Settings. Set Tinder to search from your current location. Narrow the age range under the Age slider, or use the Explore tab to narrow users by passions or interests.

  • How do I unmatch on Tinder?

    To unmatch on Tinder, launch the Tinder app, select the messages icon, and then search for the user you want to unmatch. Your chat with that user will open. Select the blue shield icon to access the Safety Toolkit menu. Select Unmatch Only.

  • How do I change my name on Tinder?

    Unfortunately, you can't edit or change your name or age after creating a Tinder account. However, if there was a typo or mistake, you can delete your account and start over. To delete the account, go to profile > Settings > Delete Account. Note that you'll lose your matches and messages.

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FAQs

Send a Message on Tinder? ›

How do I send a message before matching? To attach a message to your Super Like, simply tap the blue star icon while viewing someone's profile to Super Like them. You'll be presented with an option to compose and attach a message, or you can continue with a classic Super Like.

How to send a message on Tinder without matching? ›

How do I send a message before matching? To attach a message to your Super Like, simply tap the blue star icon while viewing someone's profile to Super Like them. You'll be presented with an option to compose and attach a message, or you can continue with a classic Super Like.

How do I message someone on Tinder? ›

Once you have a match, you can begin chatting with them. Open the Tinder menu and select Messages. Tap the person you want to start chatting with and you can begin composing your first message. Many people will recommend waiting at least a day before starting a chat.

Why can't I send messages on Tinder? ›

Try switching between Wifi and mobile data to gauge whether or not there's a problem with your connection. Delete and reinstall the app. Not only will this put you on the latest version of Tinder, it'll also refresh your app experience, which should get things running smoothly again!

Can you text someone directly on Tinder? ›

In order to send messages in Tinder, you and your match have to be matched. You have to have seen the “It's A Match!” window appear after you swipe right on someone. This opens up a texting window where you can message each other.

How to match in Tinder without paying? ›

Without paying, Tinder tells you that someone has liked you, but it doesn't tell you who liked you. The only way to match with that person is to organically swipe "like" on them when they're presented to you in the "random" list of people you get shown on the app.

Does Tinder send you text messages? ›

To keep your account safe, we require SMS verification when you log in to Tinder using your phone number. If someone were to attempt to access your account using your phone number, they wouldn't be able to login successfully without the SMS verification code that's sent to your phone.

Why do people not chat on Tinder? ›

The flirting and getting to know someone can be made into a nice picture in your head. It's easy to stay this way. The biggest reason that people who match on tinder never talk is probably because no one wants to make the first move lol. So if you've matched with someone on tinder by all means send them a message!

How to DM a girl on Tinder? ›

A good opening message on Tinder should be personalized , friendly , and engaging . It 's important to stand out from the crowd and make a good first impression . One approach could be to start with a compliment about something in her profile or photos .

Can you chat on Tinder without gold? ›

Tinder offers free chat with other local users wherever you go!

Can you message people on Tinder without them liking you? ›

Tinder offers free chat with other local users wherever you go! However, only users who have indicated a mutual interest in one another are allowed to chat.

Do you have to match to chat on Tinder? ›

Only once you've matched with someone on Tinder can you start to chat with that person. Send a Bitmoji message or add a GIF to liven up your first message!

How do you delete Tinder messages without matching? ›

You can't delete individual messages on Tinder. However, you can remove entire conversations by unmatching someone.

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